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What No One Tells You About Being a Sex Blogger
The truth behind the pleasure, the pressure, and the power of writing about sex
What No One Tells You About Being a Sex Blogger
When I tell people I’m a sex blogger, the reactions are wildly entertaining.
Some people get awkward real fast — eyes darting, voice lowering to a whisper like I just confessed to robbing a bank. Others light up, full of curiosity, questions, and “can I ask you something kinda personal?” vibes. And then there are the ones who assume I’m writing erotica in lingerie, sipping wine with a vibrator in one hand and a MacBook in the other.
Cute, but no.
The truth is, being a sex blogger is one of the most empowering, challenging, and healing things I’ve ever done — and no one really prepares you for what it’s like.
So let’s talk about it. Here’s what no one tells you about this work:
1. People Will Project Hard
The moment you say you write about sex, people start making assumptions.
You must be wild in bed.
You must be down for anything.
You must be into threesomes, BDSM, or whatever fantasy they’ve been secretly holding onto.
But the reality? I write about sex because I want women to feel again. To explore their bodies, their desires, and their boundaries — not to become anyone’s fantasy.
I’m not here to be sexy for you. I’m here to help women feel sexy for themselves.
2. It Makes You Confront Your Own Sh*t
You cannot write about sex without peeling back your own layers.
I’ve had to confront my body image, my relationship with pleasure, my own internalized shame, my religious upbringing, my trauma, my desires — all of it.
Writing about sex doesn’t just expose your thoughts to the world — it reveals your own blind spots to you first.
Hard Press forced me to ask questions like:
- Why do I feel disconnected from my body?
- Why was I afraid to ask for what I wanted in bed?
- Why did I feel more confident naked in the dark than I did fully clothed at brunch?
Turns out, healing doesn’t just happen in therapy. Sometimes it happens in blog drafts at 1am.
3. You Become a Safe Space for Strangers
One of the most beautiful things that’s come from Hard Press is the messages I get from women.
Women who tell me they finally had the orgasm they thought they’d never experience.
Women who said they sent their partner one of my articles and it changed everything.
Women who finally feel seen, not judged.
I didn’t know that writing about sex would open the door to so many whispered confessions and late-night DMs. But I’m honored to hold space for them. Because I know what it feels like to carry questions, shame, and desires in silence.
We don’t talk about this enough. But I’m going to keep talking.
4. Your Friends and Family Will Find Out
Yep. Eventually, someone’s mama is gonna stumble across your blog. Or a cousin will casually bring it up at Thanksgiving. Or a coworker from your past life in corporate America will follow you on Instagram and drop a comment like, “Love what you’re doing 👀.”
At first, I was terrified of what people would think. But now? I stand in it.
Because I believe in what I’m doing. And if my openness makes someone uncomfortable, they might need to explore why. Sex is a part of life. And silence doesn’t protect us — it isolates us.
5. It’s Not All Sex — It’s Deeply Human
Being a sex blogger is less about sex positions and more about human connection.
It’s about communication, confidence, healing, vulnerability, curiosity, courage, and self-love.
It’s about learning how to say “this is what I like” and “this is what I don’t.”
It’s about reconnecting with your body, rewriting shame, and realizing that pleasure is your birthright.
Writing about sex is writing about life — the messy, beautiful, complicated parts of being a woman who wants more. More connection. More honesty. More orgasms. More freedom.
I started Hard Press because I needed a place to rebuild myself.
Now, I write for the woman who’s just beginning her own journey — the one standing in the mirror wondering where the spark went.
I write for the woman who’s been touched, but not felt.
For the ones who’ve lost their voice and are ready to reclaim it.
This blog isn’t just about sex. It’s about confidence. Boundaries. Healing. Desire. It’s about learning to say yes to yourself.
And if I have to be a little bold, a little messy, and a little too honest to get that message across? So be it.
Because someone out there needs to know:
You’re not broken. You’re just becoming.