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My First Time Blogging…How Love, Sex, and Truth Led Me to HardPress
My sex blog began as a deeply personal journey—an exploration of my own sexuality and a space where I could unravel the layers of desire, intimacy, and human connection. Sex has always fascinated me, not just as an act but as a powerful, multifaceted experience that shapes our emotions, relationships, and identities. It’s raw, beautiful, complex, and, at times, wildly unrestrained. Like religion and politics, sex is wrapped in taboos, cultural beliefs, and personal experiences, making it one of the most compelling subjects to explore and write about.
What makes me qualified to write about sex? Years of research, deep psychological exploration, and an unrelenting drive to understand the complexities of human connection. My background isn’t in clinical sexology, but in something just as powerful—lived experience, relentless curiosity, and a passion for uncovering the deeper truths about intimacy, desire, and attraction. Writing has always been my calling, but the only thing I found more fascinating than words… was sex. Not just the act, but the psychology behind it—the emotional weight it carries, the way it can heal or destroy, connect or isolate. My work dives into the intersection of sex, psychology, and self-awareness, peeling back the layers of what truly drives us
For me, sex wasn’t always about intimacy—not at first. From a young age, I was exposed to sex and porn in ways I didn’t fully understand at the time. I thought sex was just sex. I believed it was a transaction, a performance, a means to an end rather than a language of connection
I had no real concept of emotional intimacy, and that ignorance led me into relationships that were toxic, abusive, and devoid of genuine love. I didn’t recognize the red flags. I didn’t know how to distinguish passion from dysfunction. I kept choosing people who, in hindsight, weren’t shit.
I spent years stuck in unhealthy cycles, mistaking intensity for love, trauma bonds for passion, and attention for affection. It took time, heartbreak, and hard lessons to realize that I had been conditioned to see sex and relationships in a way that didn’t serve me.
My brain had been wired to crave what was familiar—even if that familiarity was pain, betrayal, or instability. I had to unlearn those patterns.
I had to sit with my past and acknowledge how I had ignored my intuition, silenced my needs, and accepted less than I deserved. And most importantly, I had to let go of the guilt that came with those realizations. Then I fell in love with my wife…..
She showed me that people can be trusted. That fidelity is real. That love isn’t supposed to be a battlefield, a guessing game, or a constant fight for validation. For the first time, I felt safe. I started looking at my past relationships with new eyes, and for the first time, I saw the truth: I had never really known what love felt like until then. My wife taught me how to open up, how to trust, how to let go of the armor I had worn for so long. She showed me that love wasn’t about proving my worth but about being seen, understood, and cherished exactly as I am.
Together, we built a life, one that included our children—two moms and a dad in a co-parenting dynamic that works because we chose to prioritize love and respect over bitterness or ego. My past relationships may have been lessons in what I didn’t want, but they also led me here, to a love that is deep, enduring, and real.
The name Hardpress comes from that unfiltered honesty we pour into our journals—the thoughts so intense, so vulnerable, that we’re tempted to rip out the pages. It’s about capturing the truth, no matter how messy, uncomfortable, or beautiful it may be. That’s why my blog embraces rips and torn paper elements—they symbolize the imperfect, yet profoundly meaningful, moments that shape us.
After being laid off, I took a hard look at my skills and passions. What I truly craved was helping people explore their desires, embrace their pleasure, and deepen their connections. So, I immersed myself in research, studied the complexities of intimacy, and reflected on my own experiences. That journey led me here—to a career where I get to blend expert insight with personal storytelling, all in the name of passion and pleasure.
So, welcome to Hardpress—where we dive into the unfiltered truth about sex, love, and everything in between. Let’s explore together.